Learning to Be Steady in Uncertainty
“If your peace depends on everything going right, it’s not peace — it’s control.
Learn to be steady in uncertainty. That’s real growth.”
Life is a wild mix of beauty and unpredictability. No matter how carefully we plan, how perfectly we map out our vision boards or routines, life finds ways to remind us that it will unfold on its own terms.
I’ve always found comfort in structure. Maybe it’s my Virgo sun — the part of me that loves lists, alignment, and things falling into place just so. I like when the dots connect cleanly. When things make sense. When effort equals outcome.
But that’s not always how life works. And truthfully, that’s been one of my hardest and most humbling lessons.
Control Isn’t Peace — It’s a Tight Grip
When things don’t go the way I expect, I still feel that little tightening in my chest — that whisper that says, “Fix it, figure it out, make it better.” But I’ve learned (and continue to learn) that the tighter I grip, the more peace slips through my fingers.
Because control is an illusion. The weather changes, people shift, plans fall apart, and timing takes its own sweet time. What if, instead of fighting that, we softened into it?
What if peace didn’t come from everything going right — but from trusting that even when things go wrong, we’re still okay?
That, to me, is what real steadiness looks like. Not perfect calm. Not detached indifference. But the ability to return to center, to our breath, to our knowing, even as the ground beneath us moves.
The Practices That Keep Me Steady
The practices that anchor me are less about “fixing” myself and more about remembering who I already am — whole, capable, connected. They teach me to return rather than to control.
Yoga reminds me that strength and surrender coexist — every pose, every breath, a dialogue between effort and ease.
Strength training keeps me grounded in discipline — proof that steadiness is something we build, rep by rep, day by day.
Kundalini clears what’s stagnant and reminds me that energy moves through us when we stop resisting.
Yin and Nidra invite stillness, teaching that rest is not a reward — it’s a practice of receiving.
Ayurveda reconnects me to rhythm: to seasons, to elements, to balance that already exists within.
Astrology helps me zoom out — to see that life moves in cycles, that timing has its own intelligence, that maybe there’s a greater pattern weaving it all together.
Each of these practices helps me loosen the grip. To breathe deeper. To surrender a little more each day.
The Pulse of Life — Spanda
In yogic philosophy, there’s a concept called spanda — the pulse of the universe, the rhythm of expansion and contraction that runs through everything. It’s in our breath, in the tides, in the beating of our hearts.
There are moments when life expands — things fall into place, energy flows, we feel clear and aligned. And there are moments when life contracts — plans stall, emotions rise, uncertainty takes center stage.
The wisdom is in knowing that both are necessary. The pulse needs both beats to keep rhythm. Growth is not constant expansion; it’s the dance between the two.
Steadiness isn’t about escaping the contraction. It’s about remembering that it’s part of the pulse. That even in stillness, even in discomfort, life is moving.
Reflection Prompts
Where in my life am I holding on too tightly to what I want instead of trusting what’s unfolding?
How do I respond when things don’t go according to plan? Can I meet myself with compassion instead of frustration?
What anchors me when life feels unpredictable?
What would it look like to surrender — not as giving up, but as allowing?
Rituals for Steadiness
Begin each morning with three intentional breaths — before you reach for your phone, before the world enters your space. Let breath be your first act of grounding.
Move your body daily — not to perfect it, but to inhabit it. Let movement remind you that you are alive, adaptable, resilient.
Step outside, even for a few minutes. Feel the sky, the wind, the subtle hum of life continuing all around you.
End your day with gratitude — name one thing you released and one thing you’re ready to welcome in.
Learning to Trust the Flow
There will always be moments when we want to hold on tighter — when uncertainty feels too much, too open, too unknown. But maybe that’s the invitation. To let life soften us instead of harden us.
Steadiness doesn’t mean we stop feeling. It means we feel deeply without being swept away. It means we trust that we can bend and not break. It means remembering that peace isn’t the absence of change — it’s the presence of trust.
So, when life feels uncertain — breathe.
Root into what you can control: your breath, your presence, your response.
And then let the rest flow, as it always has, as it always will.
Learn to be steady in uncertainty. That’s real growth.
